Only Child

Who is more fortunate, the 1st child or the 2nd child? Depends on how you look at it....

Usually the 1st child will have devoted time and attention solely on him/her while the 2nd child hardly have the opportunity for such luxury. Of course being the 2nd child does have their own advantages, I hope. It is indeed always unfair to make comparison between children, trying hard as we can, human nature tend to override the resistance to do so.

2nd child will most probably have more freedom in terms of their milestones and developments, we do tend to be a little relaxed on the disciplinary aspect. Perhaps not all parents do that but I have to admit I do, putting favouritism aside. Nonetheless I am still a strict advocate of discipline and believe that "spare the rod and spoil the child". Judgements stepped in when and what need to be discipline and what could be allowed to slide by. Not all parents abide by this principle but to each their own.

Now most of the time, Zethan will followed us out running errands and it is definitely not difficult to understand why. With Zethan, it's basically grab the water bottle and go while leaving the house with Zelyn will require a fair bit of logistics. To worsen the situation, the daddy is not very much in favour of bringing the girl out especially so if the grandmother is available at home. Sometimes I seriously feel that he or rather we pretty much take things for granted and I do try to avoid being so complacent if possible.

So on very rare occasions when Zethan is out with the grandmother, Zelyn has the luxury of being our 'only child' for the few hours. It is not very frequent we can make it happen but we are glad to embrace the precious moments when chanced upon. Lately we have had the opportunities to do just that. Joining her on her exploration to the outside world, sharing with her on anything & everything under the sun, such a bliss.

We will try to make it a point to spend some time alone with both the children and birthdays might be a great reason to start with.