6 years

02 01 2014 marked our 6th wedding anniversary.

 

6 years isn't a very long time yet it is not that short after all. It is definitely not easy for 2 person to come together and accepting each other despite the different upbringing, family background and culture. I have to admit that our journey from paktorship to marriage have not been a smooth sailing one as well, I mean come on whose could be that perfect. We have to overcome a fair bit of indifferences, disagreements, arguments and fights (not referring to physical fights here). 

Just few days back, I happen to come across a bimbotic remark passed on one of the social media platform and felt utterly disgusted. In a nutshell the brainless lady expressed her 'disgust' on how one of her girlfriend who is her classmates from a branded institution with very well to do family background, self employed marrying her husband who is a ITE graduate, low income family background and employed doing clerical work. The brainless girl simply looked down on them, claimed that the girlfriend's family disapproved of the marriage to the extend of not attending the wedding in a 5 star hotel and needless to say she did not attend too and refused to acknowledge them in public. Fictional character or not, it's beside the point.

I am very glad that neither one of us do not belong to the rich and affluent category thus we have no such issues fighting against us. No nonsense of "öh, she married him because of the rich family". In the early days, it was mainly housing arrangements issues creating major problems between us. Both of us belong to extreme character so we are totally not a classic case of "soul mates" in this equation. We hardly had any similar interests and I must have to say we shared very different thoughts on the same matter so that would give a very good indication on how different are we. So much so that we could be north and south pole, each on the exact opposite end. Is that the reason why we are attracted, I have no idea.

To give my hubby due credit, his tolerance is very high in order to accept the nonsense I have thrown to him. I am a highly impulsive quick tempered stubborn mule while on the other hand he is often level headed, laid back and ever ready to back off whenever we are engaged in a major heated argument. Honestly this could worked both ways, good and bad. In a way, it does not helped if both are strong willed and stubborn in an argument which could escalate to some ugly situation. However it is also often his laid back (read as bochup) attitude which make me angrier than I already am if you know what I mean. I belong to the category where I would like to iron things out right there and then while he believe that we could not possibly communicate effectively when we are at loggerheads thus chose to remain in silence.

 

Over the years, we have however worked out our differences or at least tried really hard to avoid such argument and keep it to the minimum. I am unsure if my hubby would agreed with this statement but I felt like I have tamed down over the years. I have grown to accept that this is the way he deal with situations and there need to be a more efficient way to resolve matters. So we kind of backed off from each other, giving each other room to cool down and reorganize our thoughts (more often me than him I supposed). The only setback was that this could result in a cold war and issues left unresolved and swept under the carpet which we have yet to find an ideal solution to approach it.

 

I am in no way an expert when it comes to dealing with relationship and there is a lot more I could master in the many more years to come. All I can say is I have grown a little along the way, coupled with the limited experiences gathered, we looked forward to many more years of anniversary.

 p/s ~ looking back at our wedding pictures sadden a great deal.....is it seriously possible for me to return near to the shape and build right then?!!

18 months

And so the little princess turned 18 months old.

 

As most of her peers are starting playgroup today (well it is all over in FB), she will not be simply because the bad mummy have not thought of it at all! I am indeed guilty as charged as my mind is all about enrolling her in MKG in Pre-Nursery in 2015 thus did nothing for her this year, not even any weekend classes till this point of time!

 

I am really very pleased with her speech development as she is progressing very fast and her ability to pick up new words is rather amazing. Allowed me to praise my own daughter but honestly I am impressed with her. Definitely the sweetest word is when she put on her manja mood and go ~ mummy....music to my ears and I melt literally.

Some of the words she picked up over the last month: -

 

~ Night Night

~ See you

~ Mo more (no more)

~ Laining (Raining)

~ Nini (Minnie)

~ Bag (ransack my bag or hide toys in my bag)

~ Sit (when we ask her to put on her shoes)

~ Nion (lion)

~ Nono (Pororo)

~ S-cy (Spicy)

~ Ruff (Giraffe)

~ Fis (Fish - co-relate to images)

~ Bu(4) Yao(4) (Don't want in mandarin)

~ An(4) mo(2) (Massage in mandarin)

~ Xie Xie

The irritating flu bug have been with her for the longest time I can remember. A second trip to the PD suggest that she is most probably having sensitive airway and highly affected by the volatile change in temperature as well as weather. It certainly did not help that the weather these days are still rather extreme and on most days, rain and low temperature to be expected. So her condition can improved on one day and worsen the next day. She is being put on 2 weeks course of medications - Singulair, Aerius, Dhiatfen and Bambec. Pray hard that after completion, she will fully recover otherwise the Chinese New Year festive period might worsen her condition once again. It really break my heart to see her on medication for such a long period of time.

Physical growth is still less than ideal by my standard. Despite efforts to beef her up, she still remained at 9.3kg with very marginal increase in weight. This girl of mine is really very kind to my pocket, taking forever to outgrown her clothes and shoes. I am still hoping that she will put on slightly more weight and apparently it seem she is currently going through a growth spurt.

 

Oh, did I mentioned that she is sprouting 5-6 teeth at the same time, 2-3 molars inclusive! Telling me about grouchiness, coupled with her discomfort from the flu, double whammy! I had gone through a consecutive 4 nights of waking at 3am sobbing badly and could not be comforted for the next 30 minutes before falling asleep only 2 hours later. Geez I could have easily add on to the collection of Panda exhibits at River Safari, more panda looking than they are. Her teeth are not cutting evenly and the PD advise there is nothing we could do but hope for even growth for the next set of adult teeth otherwise save up for braces!

 

Happy 18months my darling and officially she is promoted into toddlerhood!

 

2014

Good bye 2013.....hello 2014!

 

2013 had been a very fruitful year for me. Switching from being SAHM to FTWM, was quite a major challenge for me having been out of action for close to 2 years! Took a while to adapt since I have not been a big fan of changes though I should be considered as good tolerance in adaptability.

 

Back to 2014, think setting new year resolutions are rather passé so shall give it a miss this year. Anyhow I have not exactly been able to recall attaining the resolutions set out for the past years, yes no typo, past years! Then again, I am still secretly wishing that my resolution can come true...I need to lean down and lose weight!!!

 

So how do we spend New Year eve? AT HOME LA, what else could we have done?! I spend my countdown amid baking and the children are nice to us, KO-ed a little past 10pm which is quite rare. My Japanese cotton cheesecake turned out well and the very 1st time the hub sing praise of it, not very generous with his praises but good enough.

 

Attended Cayden's birthday party on the first day of the year and yes we are indeed very honoured to be invited since it is a small family affair party, a Minion themed party!! Cayden was very happy and both of them stuck together for the whole afternoon. A whale of time both the boys had. Cayden kept on insisting to take photos with Zethan included! It is amazing how both of them turned out to be best buddy somehow despite the fact that we do not meet up as often as we would like it to be.

 

Some emo thoughts here. It is a great shame that we have 'lost' some friends but as the way life is, people in our lives come and go which is perfectly normal. The abnormality is being backstabbed by others for unknown reasons to lose another set of friendship, perhaps guilty conscience at work. Incapability and non performance refused to be acknowledged yet blaming on others. No wish of speculations but just a slight tint of regrets that situation to turn out this way. Honestly it's a classic case of quality and not quantity of friendship displayed. Just like what the hubby said, even if being sentenced to death, the least is to identify what had gone wrong but it is not in us to pursue it further. As in all different form of 'ship' be it relationship or friendship, it take a great deal to maintain and certainly two ways. Just do me a small favour, do not ever relate any 'secrets' or typical 'talk here and forget all about it' as end of the day ironically the subject of the topic turned out to be on such good terms with the person whom start it all! Freaky scary and ugly human. 

 

Well, on a positive note, all the negativity and evils eliminated in 2013 so we could have a great positive year in 2014!