Happy Mother's Day

Still in time....

HAPPY MUMMY'S DAY  to my mummy, myself and all mummies out there.

Truly it was only when one become a mummy that she realized how mummies felt. 

I did not have a close relationship with mine since childhood due to numerous reasons. It was only after Zethan arrived that our relationship improved tremendously and the bonding excel. Honestly the conversations we had during that 1 year far exceeded the last 30+ years. Yes that is how bad it can be, no exaggerations here. 

As the saying goes, whenever there is any setbacks, it's always mummy around to offer her help. This is particularly true as frankly she rendered huge help when it comes to the care-giving of both my kids. If not for her help, gathered I will not have peace of mind to be a Full Time Working Mother. She took such good care of my children even over the weekends without much complains. Mummies are really the most noble being on Earth, always putting children ahead of themselves. Parenting and care-giving is indeed the toughest career in the world and yet one of the most rewarding. We have to be appreciative of our mummies and in turn hope that our children will be of us.

We belong to the traditional family when all do not express their emotions freely. Having said that I would still like to say a big Thank You to my mummy!

p/s ~ by the time this post is completed, over ran by 9 mins!

edited on 31 May...

Presenting my priceless and precious "Zeffany bracelet"....

My sweet young man had wanted to give me a surprise with this bracelet. He started asking a week before on my favorite colors and I had to offer him 3 choices. He try to be as secretive as he can be (or so he thought) revealing that Guo Laoshi will be teaching them some craftwork but it's supposed to be a secret present for Mother's Day!

Anyhow on the day itself, I returned home, opened the door and saw the smirk on his face, hands behind his back. I had to pretend nothing is happening, went around the house with my usual routine. Then he asked me to sit down on the couch and stretch out one of my hand, another hand (left or right). He went on to slip the bracelet on for me and go "Mu Qing Jie Kuai Le". Frankly my heart swell and I nearly melted, how very sweet can that be. For the rest of the day he made sure I wore it and was rather upset that I had remove it when I went to bed. The next morning, he inspected and reminded me to put it on. In his words he said, sleep also must wear!

My dearest baby, you are unable to apprehend at this point of time but it was precisely how precious it is to me that I am not wearing it all day! One day you might understand...

Demise

She passed away peacefully on 23rd Feb 2014 at the ripe age of 91 years old.

She was my great grandmother, my grandmother's mother that is. For my kids, she is their grandfather's grandmother or great great grandmother. They are the fifth generation in the family. A little bit of history on the family tree here - she married young, my granny married young, my father married young but I did not marry young. Many are surprised that my great grandmother is still around or rather was still around previously when mentioned.

She had been in and out of hospital on several occasions and I ought to be ashamed that we had only managed to visit her once in the earlier days. The plan was to visit her at home together with the kids as it is not advisable to bring them to the hospital. So somewhere procrastinate to since CNY is drawing near and we will be visiting her anyway so we did not. Then on 1st day of CNY, the rude shock was she was just admitted to hospital in the morning due to breathlessness. Again because of numerous reasons, we did not managed to see her again.

She is the one who took care of me when I was young after my maternal grandmother passed on. I remembered the few families staying on the same floor thus as a child, I ran from house to house. She fetched me to and from school during my early primary school days regardless of rain and shine, taking charge of my daily routine like bathing and mealtimes. I learnt alot from her such as the proper way of crossing the road (look left, look right then look left again), not to gobble up food, how to handle hot food etc. As a child, I have always tried to run away from her trying to offering the shade from her brolly which she never failed to carry with her. Daily trip to the minimart en-route walking home after school dismissal resulting in snacks.

As we grew up, we feared her phone call because we will regard her long reminders and conversations as nagging / long-winded to the bad extent of trying to miss her calls. She is usually the first we visit during CNY and we would always joke about how we could still hear her voice when the lift descend from 18th floor till 14th floor. As age catches up with her, we could barely hear her when the lift goes down 2 storeys. The proud moments she had on the 1st CNY Zethan went visiting, he was about 1 year old then. My heart ache when she spoke about my grandmother; her daughter on how happy she would be to see Zethan if not for passing away early. She was so happy for us when she got news that we are carrying Zelyn on another CNY, we were barely 3 months pregnant then. We missed out taking photos of her with the kids the next CNY because she was unwell and resting in the room so we insisted that she rest and not walk about in the house. That was the last chance we had and missed.

It was really upsetting to hear of her demise despite mentally prepared for the news. When my dad called and informed us, my heart sank. It took me quite a while to digest the news and began to tear. The last look of her was only the next day when she was all dressed up and make up at the wake. I thought I could not recognize her! Felt really guilty that I have not seen her for such a long time so much so that she look like a stranger to me. Faulty tap can't stop tearing on the 1st and last day of funeral. I insisted to ensure that my kids send her off on the last part of her journey.

A lesson to learn, if situation permit, never ever try to procrastinate as one might never ever get to do it again. No point crying over spill milk, guilty over "If only" does not help either.....

The kids wore this

Mine

Almost full strength - 80% present

Neglected

WHAT?!! Seriously I have neglected this poor little space of ours for close to 3 months?!! I do not even know myself what have I been so busy with which could not even warrant a 30 minutes or so for some brief updates! And yes now apparently I am facing major mental block, no indications on how, where and when should I start with. Well, let me try....

Feb

~ Demise of my great grandmother (the kids' great great grandmother, yes they are the fifth generation which is pretty rare at this age of time)

~ Hiring our 4th helper or was it 5th? (correction, it's ex-helper now! that's another long long story by the way)

~ Termination of employment from a super lousy crappy SME (via courier services during my great grandma's funeral, lost some of my belongings in the process, never get to pack my stuff at all, that's how crappy it can be)

March

~ job search begins

~ my young man's 1st holiday without me! (grandma brought him on a long bus ride to Genting while my princess enjoys my sole attention and being only child)

~ training the new helper

~ Treasure Trove 2014; Disney on Ice!

~ commence employment with new organisation!

April

~ Repatriate the helper!

~ Settling into new job

Honestly I am really thankful to have kept a tidy update in Facebook which otherwise I will not have possibly be able to gather the comprehensive updates above though brief it might be. Possibly I will pick on a few to blog individually about it and trust me that is going to take some time again, if ever I did. There are some much updates in particular on my dear little princess as she is growing fast and furious, reaching many milestones for the past few months. Favoritism aside, there is a need for my handsome young man's updates as well!

Okay find one day, one fine day.....