That's myself having to go through major adaptation, I have officially tender my resignation from the position of SAHM effective 3rd June 2013.
Thankfully with the help of my mum as the main caregiver for both children, I could have peace of mind to return to the workforce to pursue my career, not the high flying type I am referring to though. We hired a live in helper to help out with the house chores and to watch over the children too.
Zethan is not in favour of her assisting him in the routine such as brushing teeth, preparing milk / food and bathing. He is still 'rejecting' her at this present moment and I do not foresee it will improve soon. So all she could helped was the minor issues like bringing potty, cutting apples etc.
Zelyn on the other hand took to her pretty well and she enjoyed playing with the helper. Having said that, we have not allowed her to feed & bathe her as yet. Usually the helper will watch her over playtime, pacify her when she whine or fuss and just recently helped in diapering. Guess it will take a while to have the confidence in her and delegate the tasks to her slowly.
As for myself, it wasn't as easy as how the children adapt so well.
On the household level, it was really tough having to train and handle the helper. Not that she is inexperience since she is ex-sin 2+ years but little did I know that her ex employer was also a family of Burmese thus she speak and understand very little English. Language is still a barrier now though there is slow but slight improvement. The first 2 weeks was really taxing, trying to communicate with her, to judge her level of understanding and conversing, orientate her into the family, working out a schedule for her in terms of chores. Her chores are pretty much acceptable but the issue is that she is very forgetful so need quite abit of constant reminder. All is well as of now (crossing my fingers) but I am bracing myself for rude shocks after she goes on her off day.
On the work level, the adaptation wasn't that easy as well. From the 2 years break, I really had to 'jumpstart' my mind and body. The mad rush in the morning, beating the horrendous traffic even if it means a 15 mins drive to office. It was rather tough for me to leave the children in the morning but despite the emo me that I have been known of, I was rather surprised no tears on the first day! okay, laugh at me but I am expecting that I will tear on the first day of work. The fact that Zethan is having his term break made me felt worst, having to start work when he is home for a month yet can't bring him for any activities except for weekends. The new environment and new office cultures was indeed a very great culture shock to me but I am confident that I will adjust and adapt pretty well. Need quite a huge adjustment in my mentality with the vast differences and systems from ex organization which is MNC and current organization which lean more towards SME.
These aside, I am glad to be able to regain some sanity and keep myself updated in the society again. Very much more of ME time being a FTWM as opposed to being SAHM. Of course the sacrifices meant not much time spend with the children and attention would have to be divided further among the siblings in the evening. Well, the pros and cons of it depending on the angle you are coming from. In a nutshell, I am glad to be a FTWM again.
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