6 years

02 01 2014 marked our 6th wedding anniversary.

 

6 years isn't a very long time yet it is not that short after all. It is definitely not easy for 2 person to come together and accepting each other despite the different upbringing, family background and culture. I have to admit that our journey from paktorship to marriage have not been a smooth sailing one as well, I mean come on whose could be that perfect. We have to overcome a fair bit of indifferences, disagreements, arguments and fights (not referring to physical fights here). 

Just few days back, I happen to come across a bimbotic remark passed on one of the social media platform and felt utterly disgusted. In a nutshell the brainless lady expressed her 'disgust' on how one of her girlfriend who is her classmates from a branded institution with very well to do family background, self employed marrying her husband who is a ITE graduate, low income family background and employed doing clerical work. The brainless girl simply looked down on them, claimed that the girlfriend's family disapproved of the marriage to the extend of not attending the wedding in a 5 star hotel and needless to say she did not attend too and refused to acknowledge them in public. Fictional character or not, it's beside the point.

I am very glad that neither one of us do not belong to the rich and affluent category thus we have no such issues fighting against us. No nonsense of "öh, she married him because of the rich family". In the early days, it was mainly housing arrangements issues creating major problems between us. Both of us belong to extreme character so we are totally not a classic case of "soul mates" in this equation. We hardly had any similar interests and I must have to say we shared very different thoughts on the same matter so that would give a very good indication on how different are we. So much so that we could be north and south pole, each on the exact opposite end. Is that the reason why we are attracted, I have no idea.

To give my hubby due credit, his tolerance is very high in order to accept the nonsense I have thrown to him. I am a highly impulsive quick tempered stubborn mule while on the other hand he is often level headed, laid back and ever ready to back off whenever we are engaged in a major heated argument. Honestly this could worked both ways, good and bad. In a way, it does not helped if both are strong willed and stubborn in an argument which could escalate to some ugly situation. However it is also often his laid back (read as bochup) attitude which make me angrier than I already am if you know what I mean. I belong to the category where I would like to iron things out right there and then while he believe that we could not possibly communicate effectively when we are at loggerheads thus chose to remain in silence.

 

Over the years, we have however worked out our differences or at least tried really hard to avoid such argument and keep it to the minimum. I am unsure if my hubby would agreed with this statement but I felt like I have tamed down over the years. I have grown to accept that this is the way he deal with situations and there need to be a more efficient way to resolve matters. So we kind of backed off from each other, giving each other room to cool down and reorganize our thoughts (more often me than him I supposed). The only setback was that this could result in a cold war and issues left unresolved and swept under the carpet which we have yet to find an ideal solution to approach it.

 

I am in no way an expert when it comes to dealing with relationship and there is a lot more I could master in the many more years to come. All I can say is I have grown a little along the way, coupled with the limited experiences gathered, we looked forward to many more years of anniversary.

 p/s ~ looking back at our wedding pictures sadden a great deal.....is it seriously possible for me to return near to the shape and build right then?!!